The (Un)Acceptability of Aloofness
1. Not friendly or forthcoming; cool and distant.
2. Conspicuously uninvolved and uninterested, typically through distaste.
At what age is being aloof no longer acceptable?
I have recently begun to explore and seek enlightenment. Somehow, I’ve been lucky enough to stumble on this path. Practicing physical discipline has lead me to seek mental discipline. I’ve discovered shedding the ego and realizing the false sense of self that exists is necessary to being fully whole. Truly letting go of the ego has brought about a peace and happiness that I’ve never truly experienced until now. I guess this Oneness of life is what others call god.
Back to the original question. I have friends in college who continue to be aloof and cling to the self. This prideful, self-absorption is something I have been guilty of in the past. Through meaningful experiences and through suffering, I have been forced to face the truth: My ego is not my amigo. My ego is a straw house that exists to distract me from what is truly important in life. It gets in the way when I connect with others, it causes me to be judgmental and closed minded. Ego is the root of all evil. Not money and greed - money and greed only matter when the ego exists. It’s the whole guns don’t kill people, people kill people argument.
When you are aloof you are distracted. When you are aloof you are disconnected. When you are aloof you are judgmental and distant; uninvolved and uninterested. How is this an acceptable way to live? Life is all about connecting with others.
In following my own advice, I shouldn’t judge these friends of mine, but rather accept them. I hope they find the path.
I guess I’m making it my personal mission to explain to myself and others that all of the character flaws that exist in the world can all be traced back to the same thing: the ego.
Peace & <3,